Today I discuss the first step of the 10 steps that I have developed to combat this disorder. Admitting we have a problem sounds easier than it actually is. To admit we have a problem means we stop blaming other people and past events and finally accept that the problem lies within us.
There are times when we may end a relationship because it simply isn’t working for us…only to find months and months later that our ex has moved on with someone else and we are left heart-broken! Why does this happen when we were the ones to end it? Are we entitled to feel this way? […]
For many of us with BPD, the help just isn’t available, whether that’s due to where we live, finances or waiting lists. Does that mean recovery just isn’t possible? Nooooo! We can still recover and today I discuss this in todays video. I also discuss my new website, bpdtribe.com, which will hopefully be launching in […]
Today I discuss some helpful skills that can help you to let go of your fears and unhealthy core beliefs.
Today we take the first step on removing any unhelpful and unhealthy core beliefs and fears that keep us trapped, unable to progress with our recovery.
Break-ups are hard for anyone, let alone when we have BPD and extrememly intense emotions. Today I give some tips on how to get you through the aftermath of a break-up.
Today I discuss recovery – mainly things we can put into practice today and self-soothing techniques that work for me.
Today I discuss my journey with DBT. The difficulties at the beginning, how I didn’t think it would work for me and how eventually it did. I also have a favour to ask of you! Message me on instagram, twitter or facebook. Links to my social network pages are on my channel homepage.
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Today I discuss the impact of being bullied and give you some advise around what you should do if a) you are being bullied now and b) you have been bullied in the past.
We can often believe everyone is out to get us or judging us and this can cause us anxiety. Therapy can be physically and mentally draining but it is so neccessary for our recovery.
When someone we love passes away we can be left absolutely devestated. For those of us with BPD the emotions we experience are so intense and all consuming and we often turn to unhelpful coping mechanisms such as self-harming, drinking or using drugs. Today I discuss helathy ways of coping with grief.
Today I discuss the DBT Skills Wise Mind ACCEPTS. Practice the distraction skills often to see them become easier to use when you need them most.
Today I discuss the DBT Skills IMPROVE the moment.
Christmas is a time when we often see family members whom we only see once a year. Sometimes there can be family disputes or awkwardness – Here are a few ways to cope over the Christmas period.
It’s now December 1st and or stress levels can start going through the roof. Christmas can be a difficult time of year and I discuss that and offer some advice.
Throughout my life I have suffered with the odd obsession over someone. Today I discuss these obsessions and give advise on how to stop obsessing.
Us borderlines suffer with extreme moods and intense emotions. One part of recovery is learning ways we can regulate our emotions – food is an important part of this!
Suffering with our mental health can cause us to be very lonely. Suffering with anxiety can stop us doing something about this. Here are some tips on overcoming these problems and learning to make friends.
I discuss my experience around this step.
Not everyone is offered DBT – sometimes people are on a waiting list for 2 years or more and other people can’t afford it. What does it mean for these people? Should they just give up on recovery if they are not offered therapy? Absolutely not! Recovery is possible for everyone.
The word resentment comes from the from the french word re (as in to do again) and sentir which comes from the Latin word Sentire meaning to feel. So resentment means ‘to re-feel’. I discuss how resentments start and how they continue and grow and the importance of letting them go.
If you want to receive you own Black Sheep Pin message me privately on here or on Instagram with your name and address and I will get one out to you ASAP! Remember once you have your pin – to 1. Wear it with pride! and 2. Take a Selfie of yourself wearing it and […]
I have been through this where as I have been in recovery a while and all of a sudden feel like the BPD is back!! That is not the case though and is all part of the recovery process. If you are going through this just keep going! You are doing AMAZING!
“Made direct amends to such people, wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others”. I discuss my experience around this step.
I HATED therapy to start with so I understand how others feel regarding this. Here I tell my story and how therapy can help everyone. I believe we can all take something out of therapy no matter how big or small – but how much you put in effects how much you get out.
When someone leaves us we are left feeling absolutely heartbroken. If you also struggle with your mental health chances are you will find yourself not knowing how to cope.
I got asked if life is going well and you are feeling good about yourself – is it time to stop therapy?
Myself and my best friend Joanne met and became friends in recovery so we discuss that in this video.
‘Made a list of all persons harmed and became willing to make amends to them all’. In this video I discuss my experience around this step.
Us borderliners can cause a lot of hurt to our loved ones. How much should a loved one put up with? What should they do when we kick off?
I had to do this video with my 2 year old on my lap who had just woken from a nap!
A routine is so helpful in recovery and can make life easier for us. But how do we do it?
In this video I talk about the 7 Improving the moment skills.
Is Recovery Easy? How long does it take? Will it get any better?
How did I start to beat the bulimia?
I believe there are different options for different addicts – are you dual diagnose or have you just been having a bit too much fun that has got out of hand? Or could you be an ‘addict of the hopeless variety’?
If you want to have a great job, relationship etc and you are really struggling with the BPD, you need to put those things on hold for now and focus on your recovery. Once the BPD is under control you can have all those things that you want and finally enjoy life.
This isn’t about suppressing your emotions but more about teaching you to act on them in a more beneficial way that will have a more positive outcome.
What things can you do to help you have a healthy, happy relationship whilst also struggling with Borderline Personality Disorder?
Building positive experiences in to your life is so important as you need to balance out the negative experiences! In this video I give some ideas on how to build these positive experiences in to your life.
Steps 6 and 7 are taken together, thus the video is of them both together. These steps are about becomming willing to have our defects removed. One thing to note is that by doing these steps we are not trying to be perfect – just better than we were!
This is the ‘dreaded’ step in which we have to admit our defects to someone else – ARRRRRRR! I think the worse you feel before – the better you feel after – so chin up!
Step 4 is the first action step. ‘Made a Searching and Fearless Moral Inventory of Ourselves’. In this video I talk about my fears around doing it but also the importance of this step.
In this video I explain the fourth Distress Tolerance skill – Pro’s and Con’s and how it can help you.
In this video I discuss using your 5 senses to self-soothe when you are overwhelmed with negative emotions.
In this video I talk about the first skill of distress tolerance – Distracting. If you want some skills to put in place when dealing with distress or pain then watch this video. I used to either drink, use drugs, self harm or attempt suicide whenever I dealt with a painful situation. These skills helped […]
In this video I discuss step 3, the struggles I had with it and how I overcame them.
In this video I explain the first component of DBT – Core Mindfulness.
In this video I talk about what DBT is and how it can help people.
In this video I show you how I was taught Mindfullness back when I did DBT and how it helps me.
In this video I discuss my experience around Step 2.
In this video I briefly explain what DBT is and what the four sections are that make it up. I don’t yet go i n to teaching you any of the skills I have learnt through DBT – those videos will be coming over the next few weeks.
In this video I talk about my experience around step 1.
In this video I discuss alcohol and heroin detox. I must add that detox alone is not an effective addiction treatment. BUT – it’s a vital first step. If someone is not clean, chances are treating them for addiction will not be effective.
In this video I talk about not comparing yourself to others and be the best you, rather than trying to be someone else.
In this video I talk about the power of being in a group of same sex people as yourself that all share a common problem, be it mental health or addiction.
In this video I discuss my rock bottom and even though it was the most painful experience ever, it was the best thing that happened to me.
In this video I explain what a 12 Stepfellowship is and does. I must point out I do not talk on behalf of any fellowship – these are my personal opinions.
In this video I talk about my time in Rehab.
In this video I talk about the problems I experienced once I had completed 7 months in rehab.