I have been through this where as I have been in recovery a while and all of a sudden feel like the BPD is back!! That is not the case though and is all part of the recovery process. If you are going through this just keep going! You are doing AMAZING!
hi my lovelies today I'm gonna do a video request as you can see I have a little guest Lottie see hi can you believe she's six months now thank you you big girl now if you love I have just tried to do this video and she is banging about making so much noise yes I hoping she calms down she's just hanging around right so I'm doing a video request from Sarah hi Sarah and Sarah messaged me to say that she'd been in therapy for a year and she started to notice that she's displaying more please let me do this video she starting to display more of the traits of this disorder and she asked me have I had these moments and how do I get it in check yes I have had these moments but before I talk about getting in check I'm just gonna talk about my opinion on why it happens and basically I think that two things could be happening either we are displaying more of the trays oh we're not actually displaying more of the traits we are just become more aware obviously recovery and therapy it brings us more self awareness and we started noticing things more so it could be that you have always displayed these but before we just don't know when we become self-aware all of a sudden we start checking ourselves and noticing things a lot more and I know for me now I can I notice my traits all over the place but there was a time when I wouldn't have been able to notice one I just was completely unaware but the more self-aware I can't became the further into recovery I became the more I started noticing the traits so it could be that you're not displaying more you are just noticing them and that is great because in order for us to make changes we need to notice what's going on for us so if that's the case fantastic you are on the right path the other thing it could be in my opinion is you are actually displaying and my view and why this could be happening is recovery doesn't happen overnight there are lots of different stages like we don't just do it all at once we will focus on our emotion regulation on ways we can start regulating those emotions other times we start focusing on learning to cope with distressing situations there are other times we start learning about relationships and interpersonal effectiveness and the thing is when we're focusing on one area so for example we are focusing on regulating our emotions because all our focus is on that area and we're noticing that about ourselves and we're doing what we're supposed to do we can find the borderline will pop up in other areas so it might be our relationships it might pop up in that area because that's not an area we're actually focusing on at the moment because the thing is the borderline doesn't just go away it is still there we are just in recovery even a year in you're still new in recovery so the borderline doesn't just go so it will surface and pop up in other areas like that is my view and I am I definitely noticed that for me like for example when I was doing interpersonal effectiveness I started really focusing on relationships and how I talk to people and interacted with people and communicated with people and that was wonderful when I felt like I was getting to grips with how I was doing well in it but the borderline would come up in other areas so I might find my mood was all over the place because my emotions were not being regulated because I was focusing so much on one area they just waddling just kind of shifted and went to another area and if this is the case and you are noticing more of the traits and they are actually coming up the traits are coming up it's not a bad thing it is simply because you have focus on one area of your recovery but that's part of recovery that is part of therapy you have to give your all to one section you can't just kind of do it all at once it is focusing 100% on that section yes the borderline might pop up in other areas that's okay because it won't always be like that because eventually you'll move to another area and start focusing on that and it's when you've been in recovery a while you've been in therapy a while that's when you can kind of bring all your skills from all the different areas together and really get hold of the borderline I say at million times it's not an overnight thing sometimes we feel like we've taken a step forward only to take three-bath that does not mean you are still not on the right path because you are you are but I would say both scenarios are perfectly normal they are not something to be overly concerned with like I've been in therapy and now why are certain traits coming out I think that is just part of recovery we're not gonna we do go through stages when we feel like you know ah I've got a hold of this I'm alright only for a few weeks and months down the line loads of different traits come up and we are oh my god I haven't gotten anywhere but you have you actually have got somewhere this is part of recovery so don't beat yourself up about it don't think you're not getting recovery because you are and the fact that you all noticing the traits the fact that you're noticing them shows me that you are well on your way to recovery because it is noticing them I really are there was a time honestly I really did not think I had any of the trades at the way it was everyone else and I I just didn't I did not notice it in myself but Wow self-awareness takes time Wow Wow see hi look who's that on the camera I'm going to get her out her chair now she has only just got in it but she wants out clearly she can't cruel yet but she wants to get here there and everywhere thank you if you do yes you do I hope that helped a little bit and I made a little bit of sense I'll be back next week because I'm gonna put this video out and Friday so not love you all bye guys
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