We are living in a world where we are constantly hearing about terror attacks. This can either heighten our anxiety that is already there or give us anxiety if we don’t have it. How can we manage this?
hi my lovelies today I'm not doing a video request I decided to do this video kind of in like with everything that's going on at the moment I am talking about the Manchester bombing I'm talking about the attacks in London and I felt I should do this video because even though I'm in recovery I'm feeling anxious but I'm dealing with my anxiety and I'll go into that in a minute and but I know there are people out there that don't suffer their mental health don't suffer with their mental health that will suffer anxiety now because of this and for my children are now anxious now my daughter is seven they were shown a video at school it was an age-appropriate video and I think it's good that they were shown at because some kids will know some parents might not tell them but the ones that do know might tell them and then you don't know what the hearings I'd rather it like come out in an appropriate way whether it's school showing them and then I can talk to them which I did and I really focused on all the good people that I'm taxi drivers given free lifts people operon up their homes people not not running standing there and helping the victims that on the floor and the police etc and but I know it's still affecting them my son is six and he was saying to me mummy what if they try and get you nice if why would they try and get me because you've got a website so they can see you I was like my darling thousands and thousands and thousands and thousands of people of websites they're not it's not like that and so I had that with my son last night we had the biggest thunderstorm here and my daughter call me Mom I can't sleep I was like my darling it's just a thunderstorm and she was like no mommy I think it's a secret message telling me that some bombs are going to be humming and I kind of explained to her that no one would want to be bombing in this weather because there would be no one outside everyone's tucked up safely in their beds but yeah I felt I should do this video and it's a horrid time that we're living in constantly hearing my rock I remember when I was really young and I actually flew them because my dad worked for the airlines I was allowed to fly from Dublin to Heathrow in the cockpit sat between the two pilots because the plane had been full and but I needed to get back and I was allowed to do that and but now people are scared getting on planes the concert in Manchester who'da thought just full of kids it is it's horrible it's absolutely dry you just can't describe how awful it is and I'm so feel for the families and then families of the victims air so like I said any of us can suffer anxiety around this unfortunately we have the news we have it on the television we have it in newspapers have it in magazines have on our phones we literally cannot get away from it except me I do not watch the news and I would suggest that if you are suffering with your anxiety this is something you can possibly consider I know what's going on in the world I can read a quick skim of an article on my phone look breaking news so I know what's going on in the world I do not need to know all the tiny dick tight a little details the gory details I don't need to know that I know it's awful I am aware but by reading into every single little thing that is going to feed my anxiety and that will feed my fear and I will become more anxious and so if I were you I would have a break from watching the news reading the newspapers you can do this and still kind of know what's going on in the world believe it or not and because the news obviously is their job but they will tell us about all these terror attacks and all the details but they have not got like a headline more people were killed in a car accident this year than in a terrorist attack because that's boring news to them they don't want to share that but for you and me that's kind of helpful tonight actually you're more likely to be killed the car accident in cycling accident than in a terrorist terrorist attack chances are chances of us seeing or being involved in a terrorist attack are slim but I am also aware that had I done this video say a few weeks ago and then one of my viewers was caught up in it it would kind of just yeah my video just reliable you said and so I am aware we do we just living in a very risky time [Music] but there are ways that we can manage our anxiety and I think it's really important that we do now for most pull that don't have mental health issues I would say just go about your lives live your lives as you always have and but we suffer with a mental health and I'm not saying lock yourself away do not leave the house something's going to happen I'm not saying that because I also believe that we do need to carry on as much as possible for example I will still be doing the school run I will take my kids swimming I will still be going to the park I'll still be doing my shopping none of that is gonna stop but I am oh I was I suppose I still can be and suffer with anxiety but like I said I do tend to manage it but it's there trust me it's there and so for that reason because I'm like that I'm prone to anxiety I will try and lead my life as normally as possible but I am NOT going to put myself out into situations that are going to give me a full-on panic attack I am NOT going to be going to really crowded places I'm certainly not going to be taking my children to really really crowded places I'm not going to go into London because like I said chances are a terrorist attack are happening or slim you're more likely to be hit by a car rowdy bloody wrong even though like they are the kind of they are the facts and I'm not going to try and be a martyr be like I'm still going into it because actually that is no good for my mental health that could really set me back and so for that reason I'm going to kind of be realistic and I I don't have to in the house because with anxiety it the best way to deal with it is to feel the fear and do it anyway how's the book says um yes so if you are Agra phobic you do not want to leave the house the best thing you can do for your anxiety is to leave the house yes you will be full without anxiety to start with but the more you do it the easier it would come and I think as a parent I that's one of my main reasons I would not be going into London it's because I have my children and no it's not a case of oh if you don't go in you're going to let the terrorists win we'll know but why would I risk why would I take a chance with my little children why would I do that and when actually we've got we have no reason to go there it's not like we live they see it is a few hours away and so why would I why would I take that risk with them and [Music] I know when I used to get really anxious back the following into rehab I to beat my anxiety and to give me courage I started to drink alcohol right from the moment I woke up and so I know what anxiety can do if you are someone that is trying desperately to cope with your anxiety and you're turning to these horrid behaviors and i really suggest on my fucking wind so bad I'd really suggest you don't you talk you talk to someone talking is such a powerful tool speak to your doctor speak to a friend's speech your family member and tell them how you're feeling certainly taking a load of pills turning to drugs turning to drink it is it's not going to fix it at the end of the day it's not going to change what's happening in the world I sometimes also have to tell myself like I'm powerless over these kind of things if the terrorists are going to attack they're going to attack no matter how feared up I am how anxious I am how much I sustained was if it's going to happen it's going to happen and I have no control over that and it's kind of really got to kind of accept that and think well it could happen but more likely than not it won't and am I going to let it ruin my life my kids lives and I just have to I do just have to try and get like it said I will not be looking myself away at the same time I won't be putting myself out there in situations that I would think hmm I remember when I was a little girl and I was at school I studied the Second World War and four months after I was terrified that there was going to be a third world war I don't know why I don't know if there's anything particularly going on in the world that was making me feel like that but I just remember I had the biggest fear around there and I was probably about seven or eight at the time maybe maybe nine actually but um Here I am 35 it hasn't been World War 3 how do I let that fear completely take over me back then I'd have spent all these years living with that I was not living is it when you're suffering anxiety is not it's already it's just kind of just being there I wouldn't call it living at all so I think I'm going to lead this video there guys but I really did kind of won't talk I hope you're all okay because like I said these kind of things really can cause our anxiety to worsen or for us to gangs IT if it wasn't there before but like I said cut out the news you don't have to watch every single thing you don't have to read up every single thing let's try and focus on the good in the world because there are a lot of good people out there and realize that the statistics show that car accidents are more probably like likely to happen and except that we cannot control everything that happens in the world do not look yourself indoors and feed the anxiety because it will get worse but at the same time keep yourself safe so I'm going to leave that their loads love to all oh you have a great week a
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