Today I discuss RAD and whether or not BPD could be the adult version of this disorder.

hi beautiful people happy Wednesday I
apologize I've been away I actually
haven't been away I've been asleep I've
had a virus and it floored me but I'm
feeling better today so I'm back and I'm
doing a video request from a PicMonkey
high who asked me to discuss reactive
attachment disorder and how it compares
with BPD now I didn't really know
anything about our ad so I had to do a
bit of research and I learned that it's
relatively new disorder it first
appeared in the DSM 3 and basically that
I don't know if you remember when though
the mass orphanages where loads and
loads of kids were basically put in an
orphanage and they weren't cared for
they had to fend for themselves they
were just left to cry in their courts
and left alone and really neglected by
their primary caregivers and these
children grow up with attachment issues
obviously and that's when like the first
it was first kind of talk or ad and in
the DSM actually one of the criteria for
having been diagnosed with already is
that between the ages of one year and
three years you suffered abuse or
neglect or being passed from one primary
caregiver to another and so that is
actually a criteria that this happened
so it that if that differs from BPD in
fact that in the drop do though
diagnostic criteria for BPD there's no
mention of course whereas with our ad
that is the cause and the child had to
have had this between age 103 to be
diagnosed and already is also diagnosed
when a child is below the age of 5 5 and
below where as BPD gets diagnosed in
adulthood I know people are now
diagnosing earlier they attended
previously to be like an adult
things so the question arises is BPD
basically the adult version of our ad
because we know a lot of people with BPD
were by this abused or neglected or
suffered some kind of trauma as a child
and then we grow up and we develop BPD
but the cause of BPD is not know no one
knows 100% is what's causes it it's
believed to be a combination of things
environment genetics brain structure and
whereas our ad the cause is like I said
between the age of 103 and reason it's
between the age of 1 and 3 is that is
when our as a children our brains are
making all those important connections
where we learn to trust like our primary
caregiver we learn to regulate our
emotions like we can self-soothe and if
abuse and neglect etc happens between
these ages that really interferes with
those connections like healthy
connections being made now there are
those of us with BPD that might have
suffered no abuse no neglect no trauma
but we can still develop BPD there are
those of us with BPD that maybe did
suffer neglect abuse its sexual trauma
but not necessarily between the ages of
1 and 3 maybe it was age 6 and 8 or
later on in our teens and it wasn't
necessarily with our primary caregiver
now there are two subtypes I've put it
on my phone Hammond two subtypes of our
ad there is I have lost it
however done that basically there's
inhibited and this is our hang on
children with the inhibited form of our
ad are emotionally withdrawn and rarely
respond to or even seek out comfort and
then there's disinhibited children with
the disinhibited form of our ad tend to
be overly sociable eliciting comfort and
affection on selectively even from
adults who are strangers so there are
the two types now
BPD is not the only personality disorder
that has some kind of commonalities with
already either there are children that
have already that might grow up that
develop NPD like narcissistic
personality histrionic Personality
Disorder schizoid personality disorder
it's not necessarily BPD so I do think
the two are different
I do believe however that if a child has
been diagnosed with our ad they are at
high risk of then going on and
developing a different personality
disorder at a later date but it doesn't
necessarily mean that every single child
with our ad will get BPD or everyone
will bear NPD I think there's lots of
different factors involved I was
thinking back to like my childhood and I
was like hug my mom just be like kissing
her telling her I love her
a million times that what that's not a
sign of are ad because if I had been
hugging kissing but someone who wasn't
my cat sort of like primary caregiver
then that would but then they would also
look at did you suffer abuse and a gap
between ages of 1 and 3 when those
connections are being made
here's the thing I know like BPD has
such a huge stigma attached to it I know
that I've discussed that with you before
and a lot of us ask questions like why
why do I have this disorder what caused
it did something happen to me in my
childhood sometimes we have the answers
and sometimes we don't have the answers
but the thing is even if we have the
answers to why we have this that does
not mean we recover that doesn't affect
our recovery the thing that reflects our
recovery is not what disorder do I have
I mean it's helpful having a label of
the disorder because we then know what
we're dealing with and we can look it up
and learn about it but actually even
just having that name doesn't help our
recovery knowing I have PPD did not help
me recover dealing with my symptoms
helped me recover so no matter what
happened years ago knowing the answers
to that and understand that isn't gonna
mean you will necessarily recover it's
really important that instead of just
focusing on the questions and the whys
and the how's and etc instead of doing
that we bring it back to the here and
now and we go okay so what are we
dealing with right here right now
what are my symptoms okay I'm really
really angry my emotions are all over
the place my relationships are all over
the place I have the lowest lowest
self-esteem I'm so calming I constantly
think everyone's going to leave me they
are the symptoms and that is what you
deal with
and so you might not have a diagnosis of
BPD but if you have those symptoms you
can recover because once you know what
symptoms are that's what you focus on so
um I mean by all means if this is
something that interested you look it up
but often we can like preoccupy our
minds and sort of thinking of like like
I said all the questions why why do I
have this and did I have this as a child
and did this happen to me and we're
trying to connect the dots to all these
questions that we have and sometimes
they connect sometimes they won't but
unless we focus on the symptoms we won't
recover so I'm gonna leave that there
today guys I will be back on Friday
ah at the end of my last video I
mentioned doing a giveaway which is
gonna still happen soon in the next few
weeks I know loads of you have already
gone I've got my book you are not going
to miss out we are building the BPD
tribe website well there will be online
courses and if you have bought the book
and you win the giveaway you will get
access to a online course for free um
what else was I gonna say Chris from the
rewired soul is doing a video from my
channel so that will be out next week I
would say but enjoy the rest of your
week and I'll be back on Friday I love
you guys bye
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