2 thoughts on “What If Someone Has BPD But Refuses to Admit There’s A Problem Or Get Help

  1. I have a 17 yr old daughter that has BPD. We are really struggling as a family. My daughter is 5 months pregnant, she has run away and is in a toxic relationship with another girl who has an intense criminal record. I’m trying desperately to save my child’s life. We experience all of these symptoms you talk about in your videos. Any advice would be greatly appreciated

    • Hi my lovely, I am so sorry it has taken me a while to respond. I can only imagine how you are feeling. There is hope for your daughter – BPD can be managed but in order for that to happen she needs to realise it’s a problem and to want to get help. I know as a parent you want to wrap her in cotton wool and I completely understand that being a Mum myself. Unfortunately you can not force her to do anything she doesn’t want. Unless of course she is a danger to herself and her unborn child. If this is the case you can always speak with social services. It is a tough decision because if you choose to go down that route it is likely your daughter will be even angrier at you, even though you would be doing it to protect her. Your other option is to try and be there for her. Maybe try and reach out to her and start rebuilding your relationship. At least she will know you are there if she needs you. Once you are talking perhaps you could guide her towards some of my videos or the other youtubers that do vids on bpd. If your daughter can see she is not alone that might help. She may also be able to relate to us and realise help is out there. Pregnancy is hard, let alone when someone suffers with BPD. Regarding the girl with the intense criminal record I would say that hopefully your daughter will see sense by the time the baby is born. If not, again social services are an option depending on what sort of thing this girl has done. I am so sorry I can’t be more of a help, but like I said it really depends on whether or not your daughter wants help. My advise would be to try and slowly rebuild your relationship with your daughter and sow seeds regarding help for the bpd, but not in a way that she would suspect you are trying to get her in to therapy. The first thing she needs to do is to realise she has a problem in the first place. Sometimes we have to go to a really dark place before we ask for help. I know that will be hard to hear but it is true. Sometimes we have to hit rock bottom before we get help. In the meantime as a family you need to make sure you take time for yourselves – you need to be mentally strong and well. As a family support one another and know that things can improve. Sending you lots of love and luck and I really hope your situation improves quickly xxx

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