Steps 6 and 7 are taken together, thus the video is of them both together. These steps are about becomming willing to have our defects removed. One thing to note is that by doing these steps we are not trying to be perfect – just better than we were!
hi guys today I'm gonna do set six and seven of the 12 steps the reason I am doing six and seven together is they're pretty much taken one seconds after the other one and steps using six and seven are done pretty much straight after you have done step 5 where you have sat down with your sponsor you've listed everything you've done the harms the fears and you've learned about all your defects of character and so we come to step 6 which is we were entirely ready for God to remove our defects of character it's that right all these defects of character my bad right so I'm going to go to my big book of Alcoholics Anonymous and I'm going to go to at page 75 the last chapter so the lot in the last paragraph sorry the last paragraph is immediately after you've done step 5 and it says returning home we care a lot we find a place where we can be quiet for an hour only an hour so you can have an hour then you're going to do your 6 and 7 carefully reviewing what we've done it says carefully reading the first five proposals we ask if we have omitted anything the first five proposals are the first five steps so now you're going to come home you've done you step 5 and it's a time of reflection you're going to kind of look back you're gonna think your defects of character you're gonna go back through the five steps from step 1 3 4 5 and think have I done them each individual one properly have I admitted I'm powerless am I willing to change or do I have a higher power am I willing to hammer will over have I missed any of my deflects out and if we go then to page 76 if we can answer to our satisfaction we then look at step 6 yes step 6 entirely work we were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects a character now step 6 and 7 in the big Berk literally two little paragraphs from there that's it ah I don't know why it is such a small bit possibly because Bill Wilson could have written loads more and more and more but we complicate the simplest things anyway and actually it's quite simple and more probably didn't need to be written so right we have emphasised willingness as being indispensable we are now ready to let God remove from us all the things that we have admitted are objectionable can he now take them all everyone if we still cling to something we will not let go we ask God to help us be willing so why would we cling to a defect of our character by the defects of selfishness self-centered greedy manipulative of all these horrid words and so why on earth would we want to cling to one well I know for me that most of them I did want to be rid of but what you won't remember is it's these defects of character that got us by they we needed them in our addiction and they helped us survive really but they also helped pulled our addiction and they need they need to be gone but it's very easy to think like for example one might be playing a victim I might like playing a victim I don't want to I can get rid of everything else but I still want to be the victim but you know this isn't asking you to be perfect and this is progress not perfection and it says if we still cling to it we are scored to help us be willing it is step six is about willingness again are we willing if not help me be willing and so once you've done that when ready we say something like this my Creator I am now willing that you should have all of me good and bad I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character which stands in the way of my usefulness to you and my fellows grant me strength as I go out from here to do your bidding amen we have been completed step seven seven is we humbly asked him him being higher power to remove our shortcomings shortcomings or defects of character and that's it that that is the prayer we have asked him a higher power can you remove our shortcomings but just because we have sat there we've done this prayer we are willing we've said he's remove them do not think that all of a sudden this higher power out there has done but you are now like an angel you're whiter than white you're perfect all your defects are gone go on and carry on exactly as you are because you have no defects because unfortunately that doesn't work those defects aren't there um so if they're still there how do we get rid of them well now we're willing to have them gone we've asked him to remove them we are aware of them we have looks at them in step four we have looked at them in step five and we want we want them gone we're willing even the ones that we want to hold on to we're becoming willing to get rid of them so how do we get it to them well refer back lost my page why did I sell well it was Oliver straight after we've done we have been completed step seven the next sentence is now we need more action without which we find that faith without works is dead we need more action that's how we're gonna get rid of them we have to carry on steps eight nine ten eleven twelve and by doing this slowly it doesn't happen straight away you're not just gonna be local some of them might go straight away if they do amazing but not all of them will um it is a process and is just going through the rest of the steps being aware of your defects of character if you are aware just say for example me you to me and I'm really really selfish what the best way for me to stop being selfish is to do opposite action an opposite action to selfish selfless do something for someone else so by doing things for other people I can't be selfless and selfish same time and so by doing that and constantly trying to do the opposite action of that defect slowly it will remove that defect until it's gone and I'm not that person anymore and you can do that with all your defects whatever it is try and do the opposite um and like I said before carry on through the step because they do work and this is where you start to see real change could you've looked at yourself now and now you're gonna go out and start doing something about it so I hope that helped a little bit and I will probably be back in the next couple weeks with steps eight and nine because I'm very where I need to be doing DBT videos as well for those borderline personality disorder are over but you know what like DBT can be used in addiction as well just like twelve steps can be used for people with mental health and so if you're watching this new an addict or alcoholic don't feel like you shouldn't watch the DBT videos because they're for people with mental health because yeah make some bad guys mix-and-match by a
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